The pursuit of happiness is a part of our constitution and makeup as a living being. Most of us are living in constant pursuit of happiness. It is every human’s birthright and it is within every person’s possible to achieve. The pursuit of happiness is real. It is also an authentic and natural desire of our human nature.
If our basic needs are met and our life is not in imminent danger, we are more than likely to be searching for happiness in some other way. Our emotional enjoyment, or what we can call happiness, is therefore simply part of human nature.
However, to create, and live in authentic happiness, we need to learn not to blindly chase the false beliefs in the mind. As says, Thomas Jefferson, “we hold these truths to be self-evident; that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.”
For those who feel a deep emotional yearning, simply meeting the criteria of beliefs about what is supposed to make us feel good does not satisfy this yearning. They yearn for something which quenches the soul. In war to create, and live in authentic happiness, you will be required to learn and not blindly chase the false beliefs in your mind. You would be required to pay closer attention to the end goal of emotion and not just jump to the first idea which the mind offers as a means to get there.
When we go for happiness through satisfying our belief system, we have taken our eye off the goal and become attached to false assumptions and beliefs in our mind. Buying a car, new clothes or losing weight is just a means to an emotion based on a belief.
A belief can change and then the emotional shifts. When you don’t have a leash on your beliefs, becoming happy is a moving target that is likely to get away from you. It is crazy, isn’t it? The more things that we see the more things we want. But things just can’t make us happy. Everyone’s heard this before and it sounds like a cliché, but the way we live clearly implies that we don’t really understand it.
We always tend to race along a “hedonic treadmill” with a perpetual belief void of something. Happiness therefore can be described as one toy, one trinket or one promotion away, but always just beyond our reach. Not realizing that we feel happier when we subtract things from our lives and make them simpler.
For instance, you saw a great pair of shoes today. You buy them, then what? They’re not in fashion a week or month later. You buy those beautiful branded clothes that you saw. Again, not in fashion a week or month later, We tell ourselves that when I get this, I will be happy.
We are just delaying and postponing our happiness based on some material thing but what we don’t realize is that if we don’t love what we do every day, it would not matter what we have. And we can have all the most beautiful things in the world but if we do not love who we are and we do not love what we do nothing can fill that void. We also know we can not buy all those things neither there is a need. That is why so many of us end up spending money we don’t have to buy things we do not need, to impress people we do not like.
It does not mean we can not have nice things and we shouldn’t want them. It is when we believe that those are going to make us happy, that is where we fall short. It should not always be the pursuit of happiness that we should be concerned about rather, it should be the pursuit of fulfillment, purpose and significance in our lives.
If you create a life of meaning with a deep sense of purpose and value that would not change just because your new clothes got ruined. Fulfilment is a state of existence, not a fleeting emotion. A happy life necessarily may not turn out to be a meaningful life. Endevour to pursue meaningfulness in life, and you might just might achieve happiness in life.